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Moms are Too hard on Our Self for not being Perfect

We Forgive Others


Why do we as moms forgive everyone but ourselves? Think about it. Yesterday your son didn’t pick up anything you ask him to. Last weekend your daughter snapped at you 4 times in a 20 minute window because she was feeling stressed. Your husband forgot to pick up the prescriptions, so instead of having a few minutes to sit down and relax you are heading out the door. Now think about later on those nights ~ the kids are asleep and you look at them and think~ how could I love anyone more? How lucky am I to have this family? There is no left over frustration ~ just love. Well sometimes a little leftover frustration but you get my point. moms are not perfect

Now think about when we forget something. Didn’t get the uniform washed. Snapped that evening because we were busy all day and just feel exhausted. Or maybe something more serious ~ we assumed one of our kids was being difficult and so we yelled only to realize later it was all a mix up and now know we have hurt their feelings. We hold on to these things for days sometimes years. We are so upset with our self. It doesn’t matter that we lovingly made lunches for our kids, got them the homework they forgot at home, or baked 48 cupcakes for their bake sale.  Or ~  that we never sat down that day because there were not  enough hours in the day.

NO one is perfect

No one is perfect. We don’t expect it of others. Why do we expect it of ourselves? Why are we so hard on our self when we make a mistake? Why do we hang onto it forever and let it eat at us? Why are we so easy to forgive or give compassion to others and hold onto every mistake we ourselves have made?

Now is the part where I tell you why. Oh no sorry…….. ~I have no idea.

However, I will tell you one thing I know ~ we have to stop. We love our children. We are making a conscious decision everyday to do what’s best for them. I believe it was Dr. James Dobson (child psychiatrist) who said you can really never go wrong if you are parenting out of love.  Think I paraphrased that, but it was close. It is time we understand our children need good parents not perfect ones.

I have a notebook upstairs that was my sons from when he was younger. In it he wrote,  “I am a bad son”. I don’t remember what was going on that made him sad ~ it was   probably from 8 or 9 years ago. But I have hung onto it to “remind myself” that I made a mistake and caused my son to be so sad. What the heck am I thinking? I am a good parent!! Not perfect by any means but good. Do I really need to torture myself to prove it?

As I was writing this post I took a break and made lunch. While I was eating, I was trying to catch up on Facebook and came across a post called “Not a Perfect Mom, but an Enough Mom“. As I read it, I thought this was fate because she put it so well. Take some time to read it please. We as moms need to remind each other that we really do enough ~ that we are enough.  We as moms are not perfect ~  but we are the parents that our kids need. Also keep in mind, do we really want them to grow up thinking they must be perfect too? That is a lot of stress to put on our children. So, if you won’t do it for yourself (and you really need to) do it for them.

Oh yes and one more thing I am going upstairs right now ~ taking that notebook outside and burning it!!

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25 Fun and Useful Ideas ~ the Month Before Your Disney World Vacation

Countdown to Disney

We are 23 days from our next  Disney World Vacation and I’ll be honest I am just dying to pack my park bags!! However, when I brought it up to my son Joshua, he looked at me like I was a little crazy. So instead, I will write a post about 25  fun and useful things to do to get you ready for your next trip.

Disney World Vacation

The Month Before Your Disney World Vacation

25. Have a discussion with everyone about snacks you are going to take into the parks. Yes, this is not the most fun but you will thank me when you don’t spend $4 for snacks throughout the parks. Yes, $4 is not too much, but take that times 6 of us, twice a day for 7 days ~ that is ( hold on I’m doing the math) $336.00. Quite a chuck of money for muffins and fruit. Amazon Prime Pantry can ship straight to your Disney Hotel. 

24. If you have not been to Disney before ~ I’m sure you have heard about the Disney Pins you can trade. So obviously, if you haven’t been to Disney before you won’t have any. You can buy what I call starter pins on eBay very cheap. They come in groups, so when you get them,  have the kids sit down and pick their favorites! Don’t forget the lanyards to pin them on. I recommend getting them on Amazon. They are way cheaper than Disney prices. Save your money for that special pin at the parks.

23.  Watch a favorite Disney Movie to get everyone in the mood.

22. If your kids are a little older Hidden Mickeys are all over Disney World. It’s a good way to pass time while in lines. There are around 1,000 Mickeys hidden. Just a note of interest ~ this all started as an inside joke among Disney Imagineers.

21 . Autograph books-  I bought books from the Dollar Store when my kids where younger and let them decorate them. So it cost me $1 and some stickers instead of $8.  You can also have characters sign your hat, a shirt, or bag. Just remember to bring a sharpie.

20. Go over your schedule together. See if you are missing anything. Also, double check the park hours because they tend to change as you get closer to the date. Remember to schedule some down time.

19. Play a Disney Game as a family. Disney trivia is my favorite.

18. If you have been to Disney before pull out the old pictures and videos and spend some time remembering what a great trip it was.

17. Make Mickey Mouse Pancakes

16. Watch a new Disney Movie you have not seen yet.

15. Download to your phone, if you haven’t, all the apps you can use while in Disney. Also add these to your husbands and kids phone. They are extremely useful and that way everyone has the information. You can find my list here ~ I have found these to be the most useful and easiest to use.

14. When my kids were younger I would draw a map of our journey from Pennsylvania to Disney.  As we drove they could keep track of the trip. I guess if you are flying, that could work too ~ include the trip to the airport. It just gives them a visual of how far they are going.

13. I also used a binder and printed pages to keep kids busy. Coloring, word finds, or trivia about Disney. What ever your kids are interested in.

12. Play Disney Scene It DVD game

11 . Need help getting ready for your trip? Have the kids chip in and earn a little Disney Souvenir money for them to use at Disney.

10. Pick out movies and things to occupy everyone on the car trip down.

9 . If you are having an order from Amazon (for snacks or breakfast items)  sent to your hotel at Disney ~ do it now.

8 . Remember to pre-check in to your hotel if you are staying on site. This will save time later on and help you get what you need from your stay there.

7 . Start Packing!! I try to find a place to hold everything we will be taking (or at least some of it). That way I can slowly add things as I go.

6. Pick out clothes

5 . Watch a Disney Movie

4. Pack park bags. I get these ready at home so they are filled with everything I will need in the parks. 

3. Pack up last minute items. 

2. Pack up car

1. Get a good sleep and dream about your trip!!

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